To change or not to change!
Updated: Jun 19
When we feel the need for change, it often stems from the need to be aligned with ourselves, our values, our desires, or from the urge to escape. Added to these is the pressure from the media and society, because change is a fashionable subject. Change of life, of career, of sex ... it is almost an injunction, like the one to be happy.
So we have to know what is at the root of the urge to change: internal or external pressure. Because we can also decide that there are no changes needed in our life and that we are satisfied with what we have. The point of questioning is to be aware of the good fortune that we already have – or on the contrary do not have. In the latter case, what changes could or should we make?
Change is the passage from one state to another, the result of a maturation process, of a reflection fed by the events of our lives, our encounters, our beliefs and our emotional state. It is therefore interesting to question ourselves on what hinders our willingness or acceptance of change. According to the principle of attraction, we attract what we want according to our beliefs. Is there something that holds us back? Is there a fear? If so, of what? Fear of being abandoned, rejected, betrayed, unlovable... Does it come from childhood, society,
family history, or the people we live with? At what moment does it take control, and make us seek an escape route?
Once these questions have been asked, we can look at the other components of change, which are time and choice.
First of all, change is a process, which although constant, takes time. In every moment we are different. Our body, our cells, change and renew themselves, transform themselves. But sometimes it takes time to become aware of this.
Then, we can categorize the changes: the small ones, the big ones, the invisible ones, the ones we impose on ourselves, the ones we believe just happen to us. Yet a non-choice is a choice. Take the example of our body, which changes and transforms with time. We do not intervene in this evolution – and yet we do, by sparing the body or on the contrary by pushing its limits further, by transforming it of our own volition. Each of us is free to choose the way we take care of our body, knowing that we do so according to our beliefs ... and our fears.
Finally, we should not and cannot fight our transformation. The mental tension that is created when we do not accept change has repercussions throughout our body and can lead to illness. Each of us has his or her own strengths and weaknesses, so the same cause will not have the same effect on the body of each person. For example, a promotion, relocation or even a simple presentation can variously trigger an eczema attack, gastric reflux, migraines, sleep problems, and so on. Just as the same symptom can have different causes for different people.
Therefore, change is a natural evolutionary process that is all the easier to accept when it is conscious and unburdened by parasitic emotions or external pressure. It is up to us to choose how to lighten our backpacks in order to facilitate the change and to enjoy the healthy excitement associated with it.